How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others In A Brilliant Way!!!

Do you feel like you are comparing yourself to everyone others? Then you are not alone. Many people struggle with this issue. Even I had a habit of comparing myself to others and it affected my life badly. In a society that we are living, it's natural to compare each other.

What causes us to make this comparison?

The social comparison starts at a very early age. Kids realize very quickly that not all their classmate lives the same life or has the same opportunity as they have. They see how some of their friends have a more luxurious life than them. Sometimes, it's parents who unknowingly put this habit in their child's mind. They often compare their academic performance with the academic performance of the neighbor's children. This is commonly found in almost every household and as these children grow older the comparing doesn’t stop. It turns into negative self-talk and he or she feels discouraged and finds others better than themselves and the habit of comparing oneself with others doesn't stop. This habit may not be hazardous but it disturbs the peace of mind and thereby the capability of the person who can actually do much better in their life than they think.

How you can help yourself?

It's important to understand that no one's life is best. Everyone is facing some or the other problem. If this habit has conquered so much space in your life that you struggle to get rid of it then here are some ways that I found helpful for me and might help you.

1. Know that everyone has their own strengths.

Every person from this planet is unique and has their own way. And everyone has their own strength. Knowing your personal strengths and weaknesses can help you a lot in making good decisions. This is why I said is, when you are aware of your personal strengths, you can create something remarkable, even though it may look like it’s almost effortless for you. The need is to understand that you are not lesser than others. Embrace the fact.

2. Compare it with yourself. 

If you want to compare yourself with someone then it should be with you. The point is you should be better than you were. Because there are many things to achieve in life. When you compare yourself to the previous version of yourself, you realize your goal and you do your best to improve and achieve something bigger in life. This comparison to yourself can be empowering because it is within your control to create the person you want to become and to improve. It’s not up to anything external.

3. Competition never ends.

There will always be someone better than you in some context. Even if you’re number one, you’ll be fearful of losing that number one spot. Understand that competitions are never going to end. Instead, it will rob the joy from your life. So, stop proving yourself to others. Be happy in your own phase and keep chasing your goals. Try to compete with yourself, not with others. That's when you will live a happy life and you are going to achieve your goal.

4. Value your life.

Practice a habit of being deeply grateful for what good that has in your life, and remember it daily. This will help you to feel less vulnerable to comparison and getting envy. If someone or something triggers that ugly feeling of negative comparison, stop and remind yourself of what’s good in your life, right now.

5. Be Positive

Being positive in life makes a huge difference. Adopt good habits that are going to help you to make your day productive. Practice yoga or do exercise. Watch videos that will boost your confidence. Never allow any negative thought to arise in your mind. Understand the psychological reason behind triggering you to compare yourself with others and find a solution.


Sometimes, it feels difficult to resist comparing yourself to others. But you are ultimately in control of your life. You make choices to lead your life in a particular way. You make decisions that are best for you, not for anybody else. Understand that, it doesn’t matter what other people do or have. You are the one that matters in the course of your life.

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