How To Handle Haters - These Strategies Might Make You Happy

Success Trending    May 18, 2022    Inspiration , Success   

No one is immune to haters. Famous Oprah Winfrey, Beyonce and even Jesus had haters and they all had to deal with people who attacked them.

So no matter how much you are a sweet person and how much you try to keep everybody happy, you will always come across people who don't like you. They can be in your family, your friends or even on the online platform. 

For haters there will always be a reason to criticize and degrade you. 

When someone feels slighted or inferior, they frequently vent their feelings through jealousy or hatred. These emotions might lead to difficult situations and cause you to feel awful about your achievements and hearing their sayings about you can hurt you and for no reason you can spoil your day thinking on it.

Sometimes the criticism of haters can hit so deeply that it can impact the mental health of the individual and thereby loosing the self confidence or even lead to serious depression.

How do you know you have haters?

Haters are a part of life. We all have them, but it's difficult to discover who is your friend and who hates you. 

If you have haters in your life, it’s important to remember that they’re probably unhappy with your life and your happiness kills them.

There are several telltale signs you have haters in your life. The most obvious sign is that they find ways to criticize and put you down no matter what you do. Haters are also masters of finding your vulnerabilities and exploiting them. They’ll leave nasty comments online, or spread rumors about you behind your back.

Why do haters hate?

Imagine a world where there won't be a single hate, how the world must be? But in reality such world doesn't exist.

Our world is filled up with people who are unique. Unique in nature, personality and mindset. And if you have a question why people hate then let me tell you, since every person's personality is different so does their nature. There might be a person who gets happy seeing others happy. Whereas on contrary there may be someone who may not.

There are various characteristics that contribute to disliking others. Here are some:

1. Acceptance of oneself

Every individual is different and none are perfect. Every person lacks something in them. Not accepting the flaws as part of the personality often leads to create haterdness.

When people don't accept themselves, they start to project their own self-hatred onto others. This  result in bullying others and gradually turning it into hate for them.

2. Success breeds contempt

This type of case is rather typical. When someone works for a better company or on a higher position, the person who is in a lesser position begins to envy them and often result in getting a lot of bitterness, resentment, and ending up hating.

3. Getting unequal treatment 

Sibling hatred is frequently caused by the unfair treatment of one of two siblings at home. In today's world, we frequently see parents or grandparents treating their children unfairly. More love from family parents for one child for whatever reason often causes the other child to be negatively affected, culminating in hatred for the sibling.

4. Incompatibility

Incompatibility is one of the main reasons behind the hate which people develop in their minds against another person. People who are incompatible with each other can never get along well. 

Some people are incompatible because they have different interests. They may like different things and have different opinions about various matters. This can create a lot of problems in their relationship.

Incompatibility creates hate in a person's mind because it forces people to question their beliefs and life choices. When two people are incompatible, they are unable to see things from the other person's perspective. This leads to a lot of anger and frustration, as each person tries to prove that their way of thinking is the right way. Same way extra favor to one person often leads others to hate him.

In short, there is not a single answer to this question as everyone has their own personal reasons for hating someone. However, these are some general factors that can contribute to someone developing hate for another person.

Some of the other most common reasons for hating someone include feeling threatened or attacked by them, feeling envy or jealousness, feeling like they have done something to hurt us, or simply disliking their personality or appearance.

When someone experiences these feelings towards the other, it causes them to react in a negative way that leads them to hate that person.

Though the reasons may make you feel upset, you may feel sorry for the individual who harbors hatred. However, it is not always the case that he feels hurt, for if someone is jealous of another's a success, it could be because he has just seen where that other person has arrived without realizing how much hard work that other person has put in to get there since nothing comes easy.

What to do if you have haters? How To Handle Haters?

In such a situation, it's important to have strategies in place that can make you know how to destroy your haters so they don't have an impact on your happiness or wellbeing. Here is how to deal with haters:

1.  Realize that haters aren't worth your time or effort. 

Does ignoring haters work? 

Yes. Infact the best way to deal with haters is to completely ignore them. Don’t give them the satisfaction of a response. You can’t change their opinion, and responding will only make you look defensive and immature. 

When you come across someone who hates you, remember that this person is not worth your time and energy. It’s easy to get wrapped up in what they’re saying and start to feel bad about yourself, but that’s exactly what they want. Haters are just looking for a reaction, so don’t give them the satisfaction.

Instead, try to ignore them and move on with your day. It may be tough at first, but eventually, you’ll develop a thicker skin and won’t let them harm you.

2. You don't need to put them down

There will be haters. There will always be someone who disagrees with you, but that doesn’t mean you have to put them down. In fact, there are a few good reasons why you should never respond to haters.

First and foremost, it’s a waste of your time. Responding to haters takes up valuable energy and time that could be spent on more productive things. Second, it often makes the situation worse. Haters are looking for a reaction, and they’ll continue to hurl insults if you give them the attention they desire. Finally, it can damage your reputation. 

Whenever you face a comment or criticism from a hater, try to not give it much attention. This will help you not burden your mind with unnecessary thoughts.

Avoid taking everything you hear personally. Many people take criticism personally and it ruins their day or week. It is hard to not take things said about us to heart, but we must remember that not everyone is going to like us and that is okay. We should also remember that haters are going to hate, no matter what we do.

There are a few things you can do to try and deal with haters and criticism in a healthy way.  Remember that the person who is hating you is probably unhappy with their own life. This will help you not take things so personally. 

4. Kindness is the best weapon against haters

If you get bitter by worrying or hitting back against your critics. It's easy to feel justified in your resentment but don't. Wish each person well and try forgiving them completely. Tell others nice things about them. Make an extra effort to assist them. This eventually breaks down numerous barriers. Even if it doesn't, it will have a profound influence on you.

While some individuals are envious of your achievement and wish you harm, there are others too who you adore as a role model. Never allow trolls to pull you down. Be a symbol of positivity and hope for others by living large. Set the example for others.

4. Make the best decisions for yourself. People will judge you regardless.

Making decisions for yourself is hard. People will always have an opinion on what you do, no matter what it is. They always want to influence your decisions.

Making the best decisions for yourself is the most important thing you can do in life. People will always judge you, no matter what you do, You have to be okay with that. You should make decisions that make you happy. You have to be true to yourself and what you believe in, and not let anyone else control your life.

5. Remind yourself that comments from a hater are a reflection of them and aren't really about you

When someone leaves a negative comment on you, it can be easy to take it personally. After all, their words are directed at you, and it's easy to feel like they're trying to ruin your day. However, it's important to remember that comments from a hater are actually a reflection of them, not you.

It can be tempting to start wondering what you're doing wrong, but the truth is that those people have something wrong with them, not you. So don't let their words get to you.

6. Emphasise Self-care

Self-care is beneficial not only to your mental and emotional health, but it can also assist you in dealing with haters. You become stronger and more resilient when you take care of yourself. You learn to set limits and advocate for yourself. You also learn to respect yourself and your time, which means you're less inclined to waste time on unhealthy or beneficial relationships or hobbies.

7. Prevent haters from intruding into your life - Blocking out the heaters

If you're stressed by hater's criticism, know that they usually make comments based on how you act in various situations in you life. Keeping your haters out of your life is the best thing you can do to improve yourself. 

Block them from knowing what is going on in your life. If they are in your social media network connections block them from your private life. Keep your secrets to yourself and don't reveal them to others. This way you can keep your haters out of your life.

8. Confront them

When ignoring someone isn't an option, confronting them immediately can help relieve jealousy. Address them about their actions by having a talk with them.

Whenever you see the jealous person, be the one to greet them with a friendly greeting before moving on. If possible, take them for a tea and speak to them normally and positively without sounding rude. If this can help you then it will be a positive step ahead.

9. Create distance

Only communicate with the person who hates you if it is absolutely necessary. You don't have to if you don't have to. Set a limited time for how longer you can interact with a negative individual, and then gracefully exit the conversation.

Whenever you talk to them, give yourself one minute, then keep track of any negative comments for minutes, then finish the conversation and walk away.

Maintaining a healthy distance will aid in maintaining perspective and limiting their toxicity. Instead, connect with people who share your beliefs and who fill your bucket.

10. Do not entertain bullying

Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One-time incidents are typically not considered bullying. Bullying can be physical, verbal, or emotional. It can also be through social media or other online platforms.

Haters are people who enjoy making others feel bad about themselves. 

If the haters go too far and try to bully you, or if they act in a way that harms or threatens your wellbeing, collect evidence about them and contact the police to file a report. Nothing matters more than your safety.

Conclusion

There are haters around. Infact everyone have haters. If you're wondering why someone hates you so much when you haven't done anything wrong, no matter what you say, the narcissistic thinker will dismiss you. If others are envious of you, you must be doing something well; That is why haters are important. 

If, after attempting to repair your relationship with them, you believe that they will not change their opinion of you, learn to avoid such individuals. Haters can be your motivator  because they are only there to demotivate you and if you are doing great in your life, their demotivation will make you work harder to reach your goals and apart from that you can expect nothing good from criticizers.

It's never easy dealing with haters, but with a little effort, you can learn to handle them efficiently. You may learn to deal with their negativity in a way that minimises the harm it does to you if you follow the advice in this article. Additionally, it may cause individuals to rethink their actions and this might help them.

I hope you found this information useful. Fill up the comments with your thoughts about haters.

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